The Power of Aligning Emotions With Thinking Ability

Its Saturday morning, we’re preparing to have breakfast, hubby spots a roach under the table, swiftly reaches for the roach killer and goes at it like Seal Team 6. ‘You’re spraying too much of the pesticide”, I said, “it isn’t healthy for us either.” His response angled toward how his actions aren’t related to health, the beginning of the heated and unpleasant conversation.’You’re yelling’, he points out. I literally feel my heart thumping out of my chest and breathing pattern to match. We took a time out. I went out for a walk, during which I had time to reflect. I asked myself, ‘Why was I feeling this way? How does this feeling reflect on me as a person?’ My brain kicked in, ‘It’s because I wanted to be heard, and my solution was to yell.’ Needless to say, I got back home, apologised to my husband, and explained that the yelling was unnecessary and that I only wanted to be heard. The peacemaking move! A healthy conversation ensued!

Emotional Intelligence is the power of aligning your emotions with thinking ability. Emotions are data or information. For example, say you’re feeling angry about a situation with a colleague who isn’t playing well with the rest of the team, what would your reaction be? To yell? Would the situation frustrate you? What is your anger telling you? What would be the best course of action to address the situation?

Life coaches say that in such situations, the most powerful question to oneself and others is that that helps find a solution.

Easier said than done, right? The truth is that you can learn and implement such practice. When you’re angry, emotions boiling when you’re at meetings or with your child, getting into a heated conversation with your spouse, what do you do?

Try TIME OUT! This allows filtered information to reach that part of your brain that thinks. Research says that information takes 6 minutes to reach the Thinking Part of the Brain. This will help you align your thinking with emotion. I have found the following suggestions to be useful for time outs:

  • Acknowledge and label your feelings. For example, by saying you’re feeling angry or emotional. Labelling your emotions for what they are makes it easier to detach from sudden reaction.
  • Count breaths: Breath in (feel the air passing through your nose, down into your chest) and breath out. Count 10 breath cycles.
  • Say a simple prayer/words: This is to affirm yourself to be calm and collected. It can be a short saying like ‘It Shall Pass’ repeatedly.
  • Take a walk, stretch, or put your body or feet on the floor and observe what you are feeling from mother earth.

The Truth About Life Coaching

A Personal Development Coach is sometimes called a Life Coach.
I wish I had one earlier in life. wonder where to get one anymore. I’m stoked to have gone through rigorous training and can now empower others.

A Personal Development Coach provides support and direction for you to achieve your personal and professional goals. The coaching process takes you through a series of activities that ultimately nurture a productive space, a guide to your inner magic, holding you accountable to set high standards, fostering long-standing aspiration and empowering you to live life on your terms.
Many happy and successful people, for example, Oprah Winfrey, Bill Gates, Tony Robbins, have gone through and still keep sessions with their Life Coaches – Google!

A Personal Development Coach series includes:

  • Asking questions to guide you to an answer.
  • Encouraging deep thoughts about your life as it stands and the changes you want to make.
  • Encouraging you to set soul-centered goals.
  • Supporting you through difficult decisions.
  • Assisting you with creating and following your personalised plan.
  • Helping you to create strategies to reach set goals

You need a personal Development coach if you want:

  • a mindset shift
  • to be self-confidence
  • to have better communication skills.
  • to be more motivated
  • to reach self-realization
  • self-actualization
  • to achieve further in your career goals
  • to achieve your relationship goals
  • to be happy
  • to be ready to have a big shift in your life.

You will be amazed, how this magic works. Get yourself a Personal Development Coach and catalyze the change you want.

How to Find Your Inner Magic

Our magic is behind integrating with what our heart wants and the mind follows with action to accomplish with celebration.

My husband keeps challenging as to why I like the word magic. He relates it to a mysterious or supernatural force, which isn’t within us.

I believe in God. We’re all beautifully, wonderfully, and magically made. In this case, our magic can be defined as our dream, creativity, and our hearts coming to light. The heart faithfully pumps out truth and authenticity. The mind is truly a magical creative coordinator behind the inception of our dreams. Most of the time the integration between the heart and mind is interrupted by ego, fear, and self-doubt.

“From my experience, I want to say that you should follow your heart, and the mind will follow you” – Kailash Satyarthi

Below are 4 steps you can start taking towards finding your inner magic.

  1. List down what you want? Get your pen and paper, find a quiet space, ask your heart what do you want and get quiet. Write them down what comes from your heart.
  2. What would you feel if you had the one you listed above? It could be joy, happiness, fulfillment, empowerment, freedom and so on. Be true to yourself and write down what would make you happy.
  3. Start working on a positive mindset. Be in a beautiful and positive space in your life, especially when any negative thoughts you have are loud. This is a great step for working on fear, ego, and self-doubt. What are the small but significant steps you could take right now? List them and get to it. You will see your magic coming alive.
  4. Celebrate you! Yes, you have full permission to go celebrate you! Celebrate yourself in any way that makes you feel accomplished and happy. Go dancing, swimming, to a workshop that inspires you, the spa and so on. Enjoy, celebrate and refresh your mind!

Repeating the steps over and over will become part of your lifestyle and help discover Magical You!

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The Truth About Loving Your Life

Loving your life is when you experience being in your body and enjoying every bit of your life. Numbness is the opposite.

Let’s face it, we all experience numbness. However, the scale is different. It hurts me to say that numbness is the norm for most women. This numbness is the result of culture, religion, society, relationships, family, work and so on. Does your worth lay in how hard you work, what you accomplish, and how great a mother, wife, and friend you are?

The good news is you can ‘unlearn’ those norms. Numbness is no way to live.


If you are reading this post this far, this means you are ready to live your life differently. How about experiencing being in your body and enjoying every bit of your life?

Answering the following questions can defiantly help you and believe me when I tell you, writing it down the answer 100% increases the success of Loving Your Life.
• What would you do to experience being in your body?
• What would you do differently to enjoy every bit of your life?

Please share your answers in the comments to keep you accountable and empower others, you never know!